Here are a few pictures taken at Surrey Swans on Sunday.
James, Sinead and Lexy:
James, Sinead, Andrea and Lexy.
Another really nice evening. Great to see friends.
It was great to be visited again by James, Sinead and Lexy … they visited us back in November 2013 as described here.
There are actually two versions of the video … the shorter version as submitted as part of their course work … and a slightly longer version that you can watch here:
Thank you James, Sinead, Lexy, Vlad and Zander for all the hard work that you put into this.
The meeting on November 24 was unusual in several respects.
There were over 20 people there which was great.
There were four new people – Saffy, Gina,Carole and Louise – which was fantastic. It was great to meet them.
There was also a film crew, which was unprecedented.
There’s some background on how a film crew got to be involved in the evening here.
The crew consisted of James, Sinead, Vlad, Lexie and Xander from the University for Creative Arts, Farnham. They are making a short (5 to 7 minute) film and are including some footage from Surrey Swans.
They arrived before anyone else so that they could spend some time interviewing Mike who runs the pub where Surrey Swans meet.
At about 7:30 they dropped by the room where the Swans actually meet.
During the evening they filmed general goings on and also interviewed several volunteers.
Xander and Vlad with cameras.
Vlad lines up the shot:
Vlad, Xander, Lexie (with thumbs up) and James setting things up for an interview.
Adrianne being interviewed:
There was a band called No Lip playing in the main bar.
James asked if anyone was ok with the idea of being filmed as part of a No Lip audience. So half a dozen, or maybe more of us spent a while tapping our feet in the bar.
No Lip in the main bar:
The crew take a break. Lexie, Sinead, Vlad and Xander.
Shooting the juke box. I think the song was Girls Night Out.
The end of the evening: Xander, Lexie, James, Andrea, Vlad and Sinead.
We’re hoping that we’ll be re-visited by the team at the end of January 2014 so they can show us the end results of all their hard work.
For me the evening was very special for several reasons.
It’s great to spend time with friends.
It’s especially great to welcome new people to meetings.
The film crew were also great. Very friendly, helpful, unobtrusive and professional in everything that they did. Fantastic.
I feel that it’s good to open up the transgendered world to help people better understand it.
And it’s my hope that the making of the film will have helped James, Sinead, Lexie, Vlad and Xander understand us a bit better.
And that it’ll also help the tutors and other students on the course in the same way when they get to see the finished product.
The trip to the main bar was also unusual. Individuals have always done this from time to time, but it was unusual for so many of the group to be there together.
Again it’s all part of the process of making it not so unusual for transgendered people, in this case mainly transvestites, to be around in ordinary everyday kind of situations with no one feeling that it’s especially weird.
As this type of thing happens more and more, society … and individuals within society … will be given a chance to re-examine their preconceived ideas and learn to accept the transgendered simply as people.
Hi Ladies Thank you so much for allowing me to present about coaching at the last Surrey Swans meeting. I felt honoured and wanted to thank you for accepting me into your meeting with such friendliness and curiosity. I just wanted you to read this visualization piece if you would, just to get an idea of how wonderful you really are:
Have you ever dared to believe that “you are accepted as you!!!?”
What is it that stops you from letting yourself go with friends and family and telling them that you are a transvestite? I am not telling you to do this, I am just asking you the question………….
What if that certain barrier that stopped you from telling people this fact was lifted and that you could tell anyone you wanted that you love to dress. That you desire to dress and that if you don’t dress you will explode with sadness and inability to actually be yourself.
Please indulge me and meditate/visualize with me. I intend to create a world for you to imagine that you are accepted by society, by loved ones and friends dear to you.
Find a place that is relaxing and either say these sentences to yourself in your head or aloud if you can………….
Please take a few deep breaths, relax into that chair, focus on the words you are saying and believe in every word that you say…………..
And now I ask you to fill in the rest of the sentence for yourself:
To be totally and utterly accepted by society, friends and family would allow me to be………………..
If you could feel this every day, what would this do to your confidence? If you knew that you could walk out that door any way you wanted to dress and feel alive and accepted, how would that make you feel?
Could you do that do you think? How could you do that? If you would like to talk about your confidence, or work on any issues or goals that you have set in the future and need assistance to achieve, or just want to by you, but not sure how to do that, give me a call or send me a mail and we can get together and start now!
The final Sunday of September 2013 was the tenth birthday of Surrey Swans.
My first visit was towards the end of 2007 – by which time the group had already existed for four years. However, there were several people at the tenth birthday that had been at the inaugural meeting.
About 22 people attended the meeting and we had a lovely time.
There was a birthday cake and a visit from Andrea Chapman who works in the area of Life Coaching. It was really lovely to meet her and hear about the kind of work that she does and the ways in which that can be of help to people in working towards the realisation of their goals, ambitions and dreams.
Here are a few pictures:
Andrea Chapman and Amanda:
And more of the girls:
Kathie and Sally cutting the cake:
There were over 20 girls at the Swans meeting, which was great.
There was a school uniform theme to the evening and quite a few girls dressed the part:
Claire organised a quiz, which went very well.Emma got the highest marks (17 out of 20). No-one knew what a bumbershoot was at the beginning of the evening, but we’d all have been grateful for one before the evening ended.
At round about 9:00 it was, as is usual, time for the raffle. This was a little more cheek-reddening than normal, since Laura insisted in making sure everyone got to read the message that was following me:
In fact, no-one did.
Last night was a regular Surrey Swans get together. It was different in that it was actually warm enough to sit outside for a while in the early evening.
This did pose some challenges.
Four of us were sitting at a table. Myself, Laura, Chelle and Brenda.
“Hello Andrea” says Chelle.
We struggle to see each other. The sunshade / parasol is down and positioned right between us.
“Maybe we can take it out”, says I.
Then, after a short struggle.
“Maybe it would be easier to just put it up” says Brenda.
So I hold onto the pole with my left hand and the sliding bit with my left and start pushing.
“Omg …” says Andrea.
“What’s up dear?” asks Laura.
“I think I’m losing a boob”.
At this moment Andrea loses interest in the parasol and catches the boob as it slides out from under her blouse.
The opening of the parasol is completed with an upturned silicone boob sitting on the table.
As I slide it back into place it reminds me of a joke I first heard as a schoolboy. I share it with the others.
"A friend placed his left hand on his chest and solemnly declared ‘You know, sometimes I feel a right tit.' "
We giggle like a group of schoolgirls.
Rozz is serving drinks for the night. It’s really nice to see her again.
Part way into the evening Claire introduces herself.
It seems that in the near future she’s running a lingerie sale kind of event at the pub as a charity fund raising event. Mike, who runs the pub, had mentioned to her that we might be interested in the lingerie. So she asked if we’d be interested in taking a look at some catalogues that she had brought.
Oh and the lingerie as well.
Things were then quiet for a little while as people studiously looked through the catalogues.
The pictures were taken just before the rack of lingerie was assembled.
It was really nice to meet Claire and she was really helpful to everyone. I think a few people had checks on bra sizes.
On checking with Emma, it seems that the first ever Surrey Swans meeting was in September 2003. So in September 2013 we’ll be 10 years old. That’s cool.